Thank Rejection
Thank Rejection (self lesson)
Growing up I always felt rejected. Rejected from peers, “friends”, family members, anyone. It only takes one situation to cause “permanent” damage in an area of our lives that will then travel into, affect, & infect other parts of us. Being rejected from one person who may have meant a lot to us may cause us to feel like everyone is rejecting us in some way. Letting a spirit of rejection take form in you WILL cause you to see things, situations, people and life in a subjective or distorted perspective.
I’ve learned that Rejection is really Direction.
He’s having you experience what you say is “rejection” but it is really His direction.
Imagine if he didn’t let you be “rejected” and you got every job, had every person like you, walked through every door. Just think of all the relationships you would be in that weren’t meant for you to be in. Imagine all the rooms with tables and chairs you would be at that wasn’t meant for your butt to be in. Not only are you in the wrong room but you are at the wrong table now taking someone else’s seat that they were really called to sit in. Imagine all the time that would be wasted that wasn’t meant to happen if you were never rejected.
Don’t take it so personal.
People aren’t rejecting YOU.
They’re rejecting the God in you, even if you don’t know it, even if you don’t see it. As a child or in elementary, I can always remember me being shy & feeling timid inside. People on the outside, even now in my college yrs always say “Oh Charity, you’re not an introvert. You are NOT shy”. I never understood why everyone thought that about me when I really felt differently inside. Looking back, even they saw the real me in me and I didn’t see it.
I accepted the rejection I received at a Young Age and internalized it.
Pastor D always told his kids “don’t take it personal”.
And here I am, 20, and it’s coming full circle.
I didn’t know I was being DIRECTED as a child. I didn’t know that every time I wasn’t invited to a function, or invited to someone’s house, or asked to be someone’s ______ that I was constantly being Directed and I might add, Protected. Looking back on any situations and occurrences, it was all His Direction & Protection, but as a child-young adult I didn’t know how to handle or interpret it. “When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child.” (1Cor.13:11) Now that I am a Woman, I put the childlike ways of thinking and doing behind me.
Now that I Ammm back at the “opening my mouth, fun, not scared of rejection, not scared to open her mouth, ima have faith and do it despite if I’m tremblin, shakin, or studderin , ima keep movin, I see me the way HE sees me so I can’t imagine why you wouldn’t even Like me” Me, I realize:
- They were never rejecting meee. They’re not rejecting Charityyy… No… not me
- They were rejecting the God in me. The Him in Me
We were talking and I said “Wowwwww, they’re rejecting and have ALWAYS been rejecting the You in Meee. Wowwwww. It’s not MEEE. It’s YOUUU” LOL. He knew I didn’t mean it offensively. He knows my heart, amen
But yes! That’s what I said.
And quit frankly, because I have been growing in our covenant, I rather be one lonely chick and have My God than try & change the Him in me to make you or anyone else comfortable. ( period pooh )
1,000,000 ‘friends’ won’t measure up to an INCH of the relationship God gives me. The whole world put together can’t compare to what He can do, What He can Fix, What He can Provide, or How He can Love.
People were rejecting the bits of Him in me when I didn’t even feel like there was a Him in me.
Sometimes, You just can’t help it.
So you might as well give up trying to be accepted, figuring out why you’re getting rejected, and keep it movin.
You can’t be set apart and blend in at the same time.